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Remember the commercial

July 19th, 2010

that began with, “How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll Pop?”

Well, as I pack for RWA’s National Conference in Orlando, I couldn’t help but think about the commercial as I packed…SHOES. As in, “How many pairs of SHOES does Kay need to get through conference?”

The answer?

Well, I think I’ll leave that up to you. As in let’s hold a special contest and see who comes up with the right answer. If more than one person answers correctly, I’ll put the names in a hat and draw a winner from there. THe winner will get a very special treat from the conference. So, you game???

Let the numbers begin! How many PAIRS of shoes am I taking???

Kay

Pre-conference Madness

July 14th, 2010

The pre-conference madness has begun. I thought I had a few more days before I had to really kick into gear but things keep coming up. I need books for this event, postcards for that one. A certain outfit for another. Ack! LOL Writers are such introverts. Myself included. All the fuss makes me long for a beach chair. I love going to the Romance Writers of America’s National Conference. It’s a blast–but exhausting. Keeping track of it all drives me a bit batty.

If you’re not on Facebook, I hope you’ll sign up and find my Kay Stockham Fan Page. I’ll be posting pics and conference goings-on from there. I have two Facebook pages now, a private, personal one and my professional author one. Be sure to pick the Fan Page (unless I know you personally).

My CP Serena Miller has a book getting ready to officially hit the shelves August 1. It’s an Amish romance in the Finding Love series titled SUGARCREEK OHIO. I’ll see if I can’t rustle up a cover for you and post it as well. Anyway, great read. And an absolutely fabulous person. Serena is one of a kind so I hope you’ll check it out.

What are you reading?

Kay

The 80s

July 13th, 2010

I grew up in the 80s (and 90s), the decade of big hair and great bands and fun music.

The other day while dd and I were cooking, we blasted the 80s channel on the TV and danced to non-stop favorites from my, um, younger years. Heh. Anyway, between Journey’s DON’T STOP BELIEVING, Rick Springfield’s JESSIE’S GIRL and lots of other favorites, we had a blast.

What favorite songs mark your era?

Kay

Low-carb Peanut Butter Pie

July 12th, 2010

As some of you know I’ve recently discovered I’m carb sensitive, which basically means every piece of bread or pasta or dessert I put in my mouth might as well be glued to my stomach and hips. No one wants that!

So as I jump into low-carb living with both feet because I don’t really have an alternative, I’ve purchased some cookbooks and looked online for some wonderful recipes. This one is divine for those of us who has to watch our desserts. It’s low carb, low sugar and OMG good. Best of all if you double the portions, you’ve got a great dessert to take with you to church or family gatherings. Stick a little sign on it that it’s diabetic friendly and you’re guaranteed to be a hit! Warning: it’s *very* rich so a little goes a long way when cutting those portions.

Peanut Butter Pie:::

Crust:
1 cup dry roasted peanuts, chopped fine
1/4 cup Splenda
3 tablespoons melted butter

Mix and pat in pie pan, bake at 375 for 13 minutes. Cool.

Filling:

1 8oz. cream cheese
1 cup Splenda
1 cup peanut butter (I used peanut butter sweetened with agave instead of sweetener and it tasted great!)
1 8 oz. carton of cool whip

Mix on high speed by mixer. Pour into crust. Top with whipped cream if desired.

Hope you enjoy! Do you have any low-carb recipes to share??? I’d love to have them.

Kay

Contest News

July 8th, 2010

Be sure to check out the new contest posted on my website! You never know when you might win.

Kay

Writing programs

July 6th, 2010

Someone recently recommended Scrivener (a Mac-oriented program) to me for writing. Being the organizationally-challenged person that I am, I immediately bought it. In a word–bliss. Whereas before I had multiple files open on my screen, I now have one. But that one file contains everything I need for my work-in-progress. I have a chapter-by-chapter, scene-by-scene outline on the left, notes (where I copy and paste my synopsis which holds more ‘voice’ and personality traits) on the right (oh, and you can color-code your chapter/scenes by POV), and in the middle is your working copy.

My one complaint (which simply be me not having figured out how to set the settings correctly) is that it goes by word count (great in and of itself) but not page count. I like to know how many pages my chapters are. (If you use Scrivener and know how to change the settings to show this, please let me know!)

For those of you aspiring writers out there, do you use a writing program to organize your work? What do you love/hate about it?

Kay

June Blog Winner

July 5th, 2010

The winner of June’s KINDRED SPIRITS BLOG posts is:::

Jody!!!

Jody, please email me privately with your shipping information.

Did everyone have a great July 4th???

Kay

Girlfriends

June 29th, 2010

My daughter has friends over tonight and laughter fills my house every few minutes. I love it.

This week started off as a difficult one with a doctor visit, a migraine etc. All’s well now but knowing dd’s friends would be here had me remembering when I was her age, how my BFFs and I were inseparable. We’d talk for hours on the phone, even though we’d spent most of the day together. And every summer we lived at each other’s houses with my parents and theirs trading us off.

I’m still very close with one of my BFFs from school. We’ve known each other, oh…*doing the math* OMG 32 years now? (Yes, I am that old. Heh.) But anytime I see girls hanging out together, laughing, talking, etc, I think of her. We were in each other’s wedding, spent day after day soaking up the sun by the pool, had classes together. You name it. So much fun.

Female friendships are priceless, precious, and I hope you have someone in your life that fits that spot. If you do, tell me about them. I’d love to get to know your BFF.

Kay

Motivational Tips

June 26th, 2010

A reader asked me to write about motivational tips. Things to keep us going when, let’s face it, the world is pretty gloomy right now. Why bother writing when the publishing world is struggling so badly due to the economy and piracy?

Why?

What else are you going to do? Do you want to quit, never to realize your dream? Or do you want to write (or sing or paint or whatever) for the sheer enjoyment of it? Because it makes YOU happy? And if you’re happy, it carries forward into the other things you do.

I’m not a sit-back-and-wait kind of person. In fact, this more than anything shows my impatience to move forward, I think. One day I’m going to get to THE END of my journey but the time between now and then won’t be spent mourning things beyond my control but working toward achieving dreams, goals etc. I know a person with no goals. Literally, NO goals. She exists day to day, fretting over this and that and stuck in the same place she’s been for the last thirty years. Do you know people like that? Do you want to be them?

No. No one does.

To borrow a phrase from Nike, JUST DO IT. Whatever it is, just DO it. And when the going gets tough, and it will, keep plugging on because it makes you happy, because it means something to someone else. Not everyone fits into a box. Writers know this especially well. We view things differently than other people, always thinking, analyzing, looking for story angles, emotions, the core of why whatever it happens to be matters.

Why do I write?

Because I know life can be tough, it can be painful, it can shatter us when we least expect it. But I also know we have choices to make. When our hearts are broken, we either pick ourselves up and move on, or we allow a bad thing, or a series of bad things, to break us. Those emotions:: love, sorrow, joy, fear? I loooove writing about them because we can all identify with them.

I’m not sure this is what my reader had in mind when she posed the question to me but… there you go. My motivational tip for the day is to keep moving forward. By kindness, by the scrape of your fingernails. Always with prayer.

Still need something to motivate you? Imagine, just for a moment for those of you who don’t believe, standing before God at the end of your life and saying, “I did nothing.”

That’s motivation enough for me to nurture my talent. I can’t sing, I can’t dance, I don’t have an ear for second languages and my patience is sorely lacking at times. But I can write and I care about what I write, my characters, the problems they face. I like sitting down and getting those emotions on the page. (Heh. When the writing is going well! Talk to me on a day when the words aren’t there and see me frustrated! LOL)

What’s YOUR talent? Your gift in life? You have one (or more). Never think for a single moment that you don’t. Are you going to share it with the world today? Why not?

Kay

Car dealerships

June 24th, 2010

Yesterday the fam and I took the car to the shop in Cincinnati. It was the first time I’d been to the dealership (especially the maintenance department) and I have to say WOW. The waiting area was absolutely spotless. Heh, who am I kidding, it was cleaner than my kitchen. Lots of tables and chairs, magazines to look at, newspapers on every table. But that wasn’t what wowed me. Being a total kid at heart my eyes widened when I saw the counter on the far wall lined with clear glass jars of–CANDY. I thought, Are they nuts??? Oh, my word! There were at least ten jars with plastic scoops and paper cups to fill. We knew we’d be there an hour, maybe two.

Truth be told, I think I was more excited than my kids. LOL

Anyway, I politely managed to snag ONE Tootsie Roll Pop (my favorite sucker of all time) and worked while we waited, finishing the outline on my current WIP. Best of all, the fam managed to restrain themselves and carefully made their selection as well. Maybe even more surprisingly was that there were quite a few kids happily coming into the repair center with smiles on their faces (remember being dragged there protesting every step of the way as a kid?) but they didn’t go crazy over the counter of candy. Each minded their manners and made one trip. Since we were there the longest of any of the others, it was great seeing well-behaved kids instead of sugar-crazed monsters. LOL

Kudos to the service department and to the parents of those kids. Hopefully I won’t have to return any time soon but if I do, I know there’s a Tootsie Roll Pop with my name on it.

No one *likes* to take their car in for repairs (Heh. Not unless it’s free!) but what’s your experiences with repair shops? Are they clean? The employees polite?

Kay

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